Let's Talk About Sex(ting)



I know you've seen the reports and heard the stories about teens sexting up a storm. The act of sharing naked or half naked pictures of themselves or others via picture mail on their cell. Apparently this is a huge issue, and one that carries a penalty under the law if carried out. Teens are being charged with possession of child pornography, are being convicted, and are having to register as sex offenders. All behind taking the private semi public. So far, it seems like the uproar is based on the respectability argument when it comes to girls and a sort of "protection from the real sex offenders" standpoint. Although it is true that pictures can always end up in the wrong hands, and often do (friends of the boyfriend/girlfriend) after bad breakups between the young minded, to be labeled as a sex offender because you send or receive a picture from your boyfriend/girlfriend is a bit harsh in my opinion. Especially when we have people who rape, molest, and murder who also wear that label.

I am torn on how I feel about the whole thing. I mean, I do think that there should be some kind of regulation of adolescent bodies in the virtual world, but its a little hard to regulate something that is always one step ahead of the game. How can you really ensure that your teen's body will not be shared with or without consent? If the option of picture mail is obsolete, there are still places like Myspace and Facebook where they can still be shared. Parents may take away cell phones and request that their child remove themselves from social media sites, but I asure you, new accounts will be opened right up under your nose, thus, bodies will be shared whether we want them to be or not. So then, is criminalizing the practice really the answer? I guess the problem is where technology, society and the law meet. There is always one just outside of the other. In this situation, it is the law that is outside of morality. I'm extremely torn on any possibilities. If we were talking about cyber bullying, I would think that it should be criminalized, but even that does not carry a label that will hinder one's growth as a person. To be labeled a sex offender is kind of like afixing a Defective sticker to a person. I'm just not sure that a teen should be punished in this way for this type of... offense.

What do you think?

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7 comments

Parents really need to educate their children on this.

Its hard to regulate this, but there has to be intense parent involvement.

Hows the "shape up" going?

I feel you, but girl, parents can only do so much. If you talk to your kids about sexting and what could happen, then you've done your job there. If you take away there cell phones or remove the picture messaging feature then you've done your job there. If they don't have access to the computer without you being over their shoulder, then you've done your job there. But the truth is, kids are smarter than parents, lol. Yes, its true. They are always one step ahead when it comes to stuff like technology, especially when the parent is more mature and out of the loop of new gadgets and things (us young parents might have a little leg up for now because we are closer in age, BUT, we wont be closer in age when our babies become teens).

Did you know that you don't even have to have a cell phone to send a picture to a cell phone? I bet you our teens do, lol. It all comes down to trust, which is a very tricky thing when dealing with someone who is in the "exploration" phase of their life.

Hopefully some solutions can be thought of to protect kids from predators. Its just interesting to me that the law is basically willing to ruin lives for the sake of not having lives ruined. Its interesting.

I come this way by way of JenellyBean. You are right. Parents need to educate their children and not be afraid to talk to them. I encourage my kids to wait until married to even think about sex and I tell them their bodies belong to God. I know we can't be around them 24/7 but if they know what we think, then maybe they will be less likely to do what everybody else is doing.

I agree although some punishment should be allowed, be labeled a sex offender seems to be over the top. I know this is wrong but I'm soooo happy that I don't have girls. I don't think I'd make it out of the teens. Especially if my daughter was even remotely the way I was.

Oh my, I suppose this is no different than the letters that kids use to write each other when i was in school. If your mama found one of those you'd be embarrassed. i thinkn it is easier to keep up with what is goin gon onthe internet ans their phones because that can be held in the computer/phone but a letter you can read and then throw away or tear up.

Anonymous  

Sexting will get you in a whole mess O trouble! I know!

LOL @ Nesh. We always say that as parents. Mothers of girls don't wanna be mothers of boys (that is my standpoint, I am girl all the way, lol) and mothers of boys don't wanna be mothers of girls, unless you have one of each of course.

Its gonna take a bit of research, but it looks like its the boys who are being charged with this offense. I always say it takes two. Both boys and girls do the same amount of dirt and we just gotta be up on it to try to ensure that are kids don't dig themselves into a ditch that they wont be able to climb out of.

@African American Mom: Its true. Paper doesn't go as far as quickly as technology.

@Craigjc: Looks like you have a tale to tell, lol.